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When someone represses their own feelings, an uncomfortable sensation of tension, stress and
anxiety builds up. The unaddressed emotions stretch the mind and the body, they raise blood pressure,
increases the risk of heart attacks and strokes, contributes to infertility, and speeds up the aging
process. Stress, anxiety and depression overwhelm the immune system and make our body vulnerable
to everything from a common cold to cancer. High EQ skills enable the spotting and tackling of tough
situations before things escalate, they reduce the perception of stress in response to challenging
situations and strengthen the brain’s ability to cope with emotional distress, which keep the immune
system strong and protect the body from diseases.

Dr. Ryke Hammer, a German oncologist, who was the originator of Germanic New Medicine, declared
that “The differentiation between the psyche, the brain, and the body is purely academic. In reality,
they are one.” He analysed over 10,000 cases and he could demonstrate that there was a clear
connection between an unexpected shock/ stress the part of the brain it affected and the diseased
organ. However, the academic and medical colleagues refused to further research and “despite the
fact that his scientific work had never been disproved, he lost, at the age of 54, his medical license on
the grounds that he refused to renounce his findings on the origin of cancer and to conform to the
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principles of official medicine.”
EQ skills can also speed the body’s recovery from diseases, even if they are taught during the treatment
of different diseases, including heart diseases and even cancer. “Teaching emotional intelligence skills
to people with life-threatening illnesses has been shown to reduce the rate of recurrence, shrink
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recovery times, and lower death rates.”

Friedman Scale of Emotional Maturity

As emotions do play central role in our life, we are expected to have higher emotional maturity in order
to lead an effective life. It is also true that our behavior is constantly influenced by our emotional
maturity level. Emotional maturity allows handling life’s ups and downs without over reacting.
Emotional maturity is a process in which the personality is continuously striving for greater sense of
emotional health. Emotions exert an incredibly powerful force on human behavior. Strong emotions
can cause us to take actions we might not normally perform or avoid situations that we generally
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enjoy .
“Maturity begins to manifest
Maturity is not just a chronological step, it is a state of mind itself when we feel that our
and a matter of attitude. concern is greater for others
than for ourselves.”
Emotional maturity has nothing to do with supposed biological
Albert Einstein
maturity; there are two phenomena at opposite poles.

Emotional maturity has nothing to do with age, but rather with
experience, self-knowledge and personal development. If emotional maturity is a conscious decision,
it can easily exceed the number of years in ones ID card.

Emotional maturity is a decision, not a consequence of life. Any individual can reach emotional
maturity or can live his whole life as a teenager without responsibility and independence on any level.

7 https://learninggnm.com/
8 https://www.weforum.org/
9 The International Journal of Indian Psychology: Volume: 01 | Issue: 04 | July-Sept, 2014 www.ijip.in, pg 80