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well under stress. They know how to respond to tough situations and still keep their cool. It’s a skill set
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they can consistently work on over time”.
In order to develop our emotional maturity, we can:

1. Take responsibility – don’t blame others (or ourselves) when something
goes off-course/ wrong.
2. Show empathy – we put ourselves in someone else’s shoes, we feel more
concern for others do as much good as we can and supporting those
around us.
3. Own mistakes - apologize when we’ve done wrong, admit our mistakes
and try to find ways of rectifying the situation, acknowledging that we
Source:
don’t have “all the answers.” https://www.stockvault.net/
4. Be unafraid of vulnerability – be willing to open up and not interested in
being seen as “perfect” all the time.
5. Recognize and accept needs – admit when we need help.
6. Set healthy boundaries – it is a form of self-love and respect and we know how and when to define
a line and won’t allow others to cross it.

2.2. Self-Awareness
What Is Self-awareness and Its Importance
Self-awareness is the foundational building block of emotional intelligence.

Self-awareness is about recognizing and understanding own emotions and their effects on
others, knowing own strengths and limits, being sure about self-worth and capabilities.

Self-awareness was first defined, in 1972, by Duval and Wicklund. In their book “A Theory of Objective
Self-Awareness”, they noticed that:

“When we focus our attention on ourselves, we evaluate and
compare our current behaviour to our internal standards and
values. We become self-conscious as objective evaluators of
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ourselves.”
“Put more plainly: Self-awareness can be best viewed from the
standpoint of personal development. It typically means having a
deep understanding of your values, strengths, weakness, habits,
and “your why.” While you accept your faults, you are also
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constantly focus on different strategies for self-improvement.” Source: https://cdn.pixabay.com
When we are self-aware, we can see where our thoughts and emotions are guiding us. It also allows
us to take control of our actions so we can make the necessary changes to get the outcomes we desire.

11 https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/emotional-maturity
12 https://blog.hubspot.com/marketing/self-awareness
13 https://www.developgoodhabits.com/what-is-self-awareness/