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JIMINY SELF-HELP HANDBOOK 11

Resilience helps us to move forward. And we can all learn how to increase our resilience abilities.
Building our resilience is possible just like develop any other skills. What matters here is to have the
strength of will.

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For most of us, resilience is seen as a characteristic of those facing a drastic event, but most of the
times resilience is not a heroic state and it is, in fact, ordinary in all of us. For example, taking criticism
well from others instead of getting defensive, or processing grief in a healthy conscious way instead of
denying it. Research recognises that there are three common traits in highly resilient people:
 Acceptance - of the way things really are, neither being too optimistic of too pessimist, allow us to
be more effective in defining ways to cope with the changes and challenges
 Purpose – the more of intrinsic values we have, the stronger our sense of purpose is, and therefore
the more motivation we have to thrive in adversities
 Flexibility - resilient people have an uncanny ability to be flexible and adapt to change instead of
resist to it, and to do so they use as strategy taking control of what is really possible, of themselves

acceptance purpose flexibility RESILIENCE

Building better resilience is a personal path to do and it that takes time, strong will, commitment and
focus. In a realistic perspective, it will not happen overnight, or after reading a couple of specialised
books about the subject or seeking for professional help with a psychologist. It might take more time